As we grow old we become busy in our lives, building our own future, seeking adventures, making friends, working and many more. Life is short and getting old is inevitable. Our parents helped us to be independent and hard working at a young age. They sent us to schools to have a better job and a better life in the future. Our parents are proud of us when we achieve our goals in life.
But at some point, as we grow older seeking a greener future, our parents get older too and when they reach a certain age of being a senior citizen, illness comes along.
On 21st September 2017, it was a Al-Hijra (Islamic New year) holiday in the Muslim community, it was a Martial Law holiday in Philippines (Martial Law September 21, 1972), it was a holiday with so much agony and it was my birthday. A birthday I will always remember till’ I die.
On that day, I received a shocking message from my aunt saying that my father passed away at 10am in Philippines time. Cardiac arrest. My father was not that old, but the life expectancy nowadays would be up to 70 years old. Lucky those who reach 100years old.
There is a difference between a heart attack and a cardiac arrest: According to the Heart organization: Cardiac arrest is the abrupt loss of heart function in a person who may or may not have diagnosed heart disease. The time and mode of death are unexpected. It occurs instantly or shortly after symptoms appear.
Is a heart attack the same as cardiac arrest?
No. The term “heart attack” is often mistakenly used to describe cardiac arrest. While a heart attack may cause cardiac arrest and sudden death, the terms don’t mean the same thing. Heart attacks are caused by a blockage that stops blood flow to the heart. A heart attack (or myocardial infarction) refers to death of heart muscle tissue due to the loss of blood supply, not necessarily resulting in the death of the heart attack victim.
Cardiac arrest is caused when the heart’s electrical system malfunctions. In cardiac arrest death results when the heart suddenly stops working properly. This may be caused by abnormal, or irregular, heart rhythms (called arrhythmias).
A common arrhythmia in cardiac arrest is ventricular fibrillation. This is when the heart’s lower chambers suddenly start beating chaotically and don’t pump blood. Death occurs within minutes after the heart stops. Cardiac arrest may be reversed if CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) is performed and a defibrillator is used to shock the heart and restore a normal heart rhythm within a few minutes.
Although my father was suffering with many associated illness, since the early months of 2016, it have been cured with constant medication and check up as what my mother used to say; but when it comes to the heart, when it stop, life ends.
The reality in life is that eventually we will die. No one can prevent it and no one can predict it. Either by tragedy, illness or old age, we will all perish from this world.
My father has lived a life he wanted. His time in this world was over and a new life awaits for him on the other life. Life is unpredictable and yes, short.
How do you live your life?
No one knows the day WE will die but it comes eventually, and the ones left behind are left in so much pain. They say time heals wounds and pain. It does to a certain extent but the pain of missing you is so deep, I don’t know how many life times it will take to heal and whenever my birthday will come around is also the memory of the day you left.
I know you are always watching over us and your guiding hand will forever be on our shoulders. You are with our God the father now in his Kingdom. You will always be in our hearts.
We love you and we miss you.
Romans 14:8 For if we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord. So then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s.